The law can do a lot. Lawyers can do even more, especially a hot-shot-lawyer like myself.
But there is one thing that even I can’t do: I can’t force people to love you or to be faithful.
Read this request from an Iranian lady living in Germany who wanted me to fix a problem between her and her Eritrean boyfriend.
RE: Broken Heart
I found out something terrible!!
My boyfriend has been cheating on me for more than 6 months and dating a German girl.
I want to take a legal action against him. Could you please tell me how I can do it in Germany?
I am not German.
The simple truth is that the law doesn’t care about love or emotions. I agree with that. There are parts of life which don’t need to be subjected to statutes, codes and trials. With love, things sometimes work out, sometimes they don’t. If they don’t, you move on. Don’t make the same mistake as all the divorcing couples who are only making the lawyers rich with their years of fighting.
By the way, for those who are curious, the same would apply if the couple in question had been married. There is no strict enforcement of marital fidelity. And how could there be? Do you want the bailiff or the sheriff to follow your spouse day in, day out? However, infidelity in a marriage can have legal repercussions in a divorce or an alimony case.
Thus I replied like this:
I am shocked and saddened to hear about this.
But this is not really anything that the law has a remedy for. Cheating is wrong and immoral, but it is not against the law.
My personal advice would be to remove him from your life, concentrate on your work and your career or on other things that are important to you. It won’t be easy, but I think you will need to make a cut in that relationship and move on.
I wish you all the best!
I don’t know if they ever got back together.
(And if you are wondering why I am publishing part of the correspondence from a client: the lady in question sent repeated e-mails without hiring or paying me. I was nice enough to answer all of her questions. When I suggested that she could show her appreciation for my helpful service by mailing a book from my wishlist, she didn’t reply anymore.)